We’ve all been there — standing in front of our crush, tongue-tied, trying to think of something to say that might make a good impression and leave them wanting more. It’s easy to trip over yourself with nerves when you’re around your crush, but you don’t want to end up going home alone at the end of the night. Use these tips on how to speak to your crush to get their attention and interest, and maybe even win them over!
1) Compliment them
Chances are, your crush is already a great person. But that doesn’t mean you can’t make an impression by telling them something they’re already awesome at. Making someone feel good about themselves is never a bad move—and it could make all the difference in whether or not they ask for your number!
2) Show that you take an interest in them
To express interest in someone, you need to take an interest in them. This can be done by asking simple questions and showing genuine curiosity about their life and interests. If you want someone to like you, make it clear that you are interested in them as a person and not just as a potential partner. Let your crush know that you enjoy spending time with them and ask for their opinion on things or for advice on topics they are knowledgeable about.
3) Introduce yourself formally with your name
Hi, my name is _______. It’s nice to meet you! Smile and make eye contact. If you’re at a loss for words, try asking a couple of open-ended questions about his or her interests, such as What do you do? or What’s your major? Above all, don’t forget your manners! Treat others how you would like to be treated!
4) Compliment their family and friends if possible
Just like in real life, it’s usually a safe bet to compliment someone on their friends and family members. After all, they probably love them as much as they love you. If you can tell something quirky or unique about their family and friends that few others know, go for it.
5) Ask about their day, how it went etc.
It’s easy to say, Hey you! How was your day? People love talking about themselves and feel warm and fuzzy when they are appreciated by someone. Instead of asking general questions like, What do you like to do in your spare time? or Are you a cat person or dog person? Get more specific with, How was your class today? What did you learn?
6) Don’t be too forward
There’s a difference between making a good impression and being too forward. Don’t go overboard with compliments or other out of nowhere advances. If you notice someone you like, wait for an appropriate time to say hi, ask how they’re doing and strike up a conversation. This will help them remember who you are next time they see you around and leave them thinking, that was a nice gesture.
7) Show you’re adventurous
Most people try to play it safe when talking with someone new. But if you really want to catch your crush’s attention, be more open about who you are. Talk about that crazy trip you took overseas or tell them about how you traveled solo through a foreign country—it will show them that they don’t have anything to worry about in terms of safety with you and it can help break down barriers between you two.
8) Pick something about them to tease them about (in a good way!)
Now that you’ve picked out something funny about your crush, throw a good-natured joke at them. Don’t go too far over-the-top with it; even if they think it’s funny, they might not want to be teased about it all day long. If you make fun of yourself along with your crush, they might just think you’re cool enough to date.
9) Use specific details as conversation starters (but don’t overdo it!)
You could start by mentioning a recent event you have in common. If she is also a member of a sports team or is from your area, it’s likely that you both participated in or attended some sort of event. Ask her about it! Asking questions will show your interest and make her more comfortable sharing details about herself. The more she talks, the more you can find ways to relate to her!
10) Ask permission before doing anything physical
This might seem obvious, but it can be surprising how many people forget that saying How’s your day? and then going in for a hug without so much as a Is it okay if I give you a hug? can be creepy. If you ask permission, they’ll almost always say yes. If they say no, respect their boundaries.