Having sex with a friend might sound like a good idea, but there are some things to consider before you do it – or even after. Here are some of the consequences of having sex with a friend.
1. It might not feel natural
Because you are close to your friend, you might think that having sex with them will feel natural. But that’s not always the case.
In fact, when you are having sex, you might realize that it feels a lot stranger than you expected because you haven’t been envisioning that person as a sex partner until very recently. It’s not easy to transition from friends to lovers within minutes.
2. It can change the dynamic of your relationship
You might not think that anything will change as a result of having sex, and that could be true. However, it could also completely change the dynamic of your friendship.
For example, you go from not knowing what your friend looks like naked to knowing all the intimate details of how they orgasm. You will never be able to erase any of that from your memory.
3. Boundaries are blurred
When you are just friends, the boundaries are clear-cut. You never have to wonder how to act. But when you have sex with a friend, some confusion comes into play. You think about texting them late at night when you get home from having some drinks, but then you think twice because you don’t know if it will look like a booty call.
4. Jealousy can creep in
As most people know, having sex with someone can lead to unexpected feelings. So, if your friend starts dating someone else, you might be happy because you don’t want to date them yourself.
However, you can’t help but wonder why they don’t want to date you. Thus, jealousy can become a factor after you have sex with a friend.
5. It can lead to other issues
Having sex with a friend can also open a can of worms. Sometimes, one friend already has feelings for the other, and they think that having sex will cause the other person to fall for them too. But that might not be the case. And then, since the romantic feelings are lopsided, this can cause a lot of tension between the friends.
6. Feelings can get complicated
Even if neither of you has romantic feelings for each other and aren’t in love, after you have sex, your feelings can be confusing.
Should you feel more for your friend, and is it strange if you don’t? Do you want to hang out with them because you want to see that movie or because you’re secretly hoping to have sex again? It can all be quite a slippery slope if you’re not careful.
7. It could put a strain on your friendship
If feelings of jealousy and confusion start to creep in after you have sex with a friend, then your relationship could suffer.
Having such a situation can make you wonder if your friendship is strong enough to get through it. One or both of you could start to think that sleeping with each other was a mistake.
8. You might not meet other people
If having sex with a friend is an ongoing thing and it turns into a FWB situation, then you might miss out on other opportunities to date other people.
You could spend too much time analyzing what it all means and get too engrossed in the situation. Unless both of you feel the exact same way, you could be holding yourself back from meeting “The One.”
9. It’s not easy to go back to being just friends
You can try your hardest to go back to being just friends and forget about having sex, but there’s no guarantee that it will happen. Things are different. You can’t undo sleeping together. That’s not to say that you can’t go back to being just friends. It’s possible, which we will discuss in just a bit