When we’re in a relationship, we believe they only have eyes for us. At least, this is what we would like to happen.
Listen, it’s normal for men and women to be attracted to other people who aren’t their significant others. It’s a hard thing to accept, but it’s something to acknowledge. We can’t let our egos get the best of us.
Just because you’re in a relationship doesn’t mean you become blind.
Unfortunately, sometimes you can see a bond forming between your bestie and your beau that makes you feel super uncomfortable. But how do you know if it’s anything to worry about, or if you are just being a little paranoid?
What can you do? Fight them both? End your friendship? You can’t control the way people feel, but you can control your reaction. First, you must figure out what’s going on before you take action.
Is your boyfriend falling for your friend? It’s time you went through the signs your boyfriend is falling for your friend and figured out what’s going on.
Of course, you will have to talk to your boyfriend about this too. That way, you’ll be able to figure out what’s going on between him and your friend before you lose your mind.
1. You catch them looking at each other a bit too much
A lot can be said about a look. If you see your boyfriend and your best friend exchanging glances when they think you aren’t looking, then this may be the time to get suspicious.
Sure, they are going to look at each other when they have a conversation or if one of them is speaking in a group. That’s not what we are talking about here.
It’s those strange, lingering glances that they immediately snap away from if you speak or walk into the room. No one needs to stare at another person for that long unless they’re doing some silent flirting, which is definitely not okay.
2. He gets nervous when he’s around her
Does your usually calm and confident boyfriend get all twitchy when he’s around your best friend? You might want to ask yourself why.
If he touches his hair, clears his throat, stutters over his words, or gets really quiet, it may be that he harbors a secret crush.
3. He starts showing off
Alternatively, your boyfriend’s behavior may change in a completely different way when your friend comes around.
If he starts getting louder, sillier, more excited, or showing off every time she is on the scene, this might be because he’s trying to impress her.
4. He wants to know way too much
It’s super cute when your boyfriend wants to know all about your friends. It shows that he’s interested in you and the things that affect your life. It shows that he cares.
However, if he starts asking question after question about a particular friend of yours, you might start to get a little worried. It’s great that they get along, but he doesn’t need to know every single thing that is going on in her life, right?
If your boyfriend is constantly asking you about one friend in particular, that’s something you should be wary of.
5. He hates her boyfriend
When your friend brings over new dates, your boyfriend doesn’t like any of them. It’s almost as if he’s jealous. You see him getting annoyed and angry after they leave your place. Why does he care about your friend’s dating life? Unless… he likes her.
Or maybe your best friend has a boyfriend already, and your boyfriend can’t stand him. If you know your bestie’s beau is a bit of a jerk, then it’s no big deal that your boyfriend doesn’t like him. However, if her boyfriend is a perfectly nice guy in everybody else’s eyes, it might be that yours is jealous.
If you like him and think that he and your boyfriend could even be friends themselves, try to understand why your boyfriend is holding such a grudge.
If none of his reasons really make sense, it could be because he wants your best friend all to himself!
6. They have jokes that you don’t get
Are your best friend and your boyfriend constantly joking about stuff that you don’t get? Then, when you ask them to explain it to you, do they just say “don’t worry, it’s an inside joke”?
If so, that may be a sign that they are getting closer than is normal. There is no way that your boyfriend and best friend should be spending so much time together that they have their own private jokes going on, which you don’t even get to be a part of.
7. They get to know each other’s families
Again, this is a judgment call. It might be that he is super close to his parents, and so, inevitably, your best friend ends up meeting them a few times here and there.
What is weird, however, is if they get along so much better than they ever did with you. What’s worse is if you can see your boyfriend beaming with pride every time they make each other laugh. This could be cause for concern.
If he gets to know your friend’s family, well, that’s certainly an odd sign. But it’s something you need to look out for.
No guy would be willing to invest time getting to know someone’s family if they didn’t want or have to. If he’s interested in getting to know your friend’s family, now that is weird.
8. They spend time alone together
If your boyfriend and best friend hang out without you, that is cause for concern too.
Sure, sometimes we date people who share the same friends as us. In that case, your friends will continue hanging out with you and your boyfriend.
But usually, if you do hang out with your friends, you’ll do it together.
Of course, you want your bestie and your boyfriend to be friends — that’s the dream, right? So, if they end up becoming really good friends, it might be that they do some things alone together from time to time.
But if they consistently go MIA and aren’t great at returning calls when you are trying to get hold of them, this may be more than a little worrying.
So, if your friend is spending more alone time with your partner, that’s something you need to keep an eye on.
9. He takes her side in arguments
No friendship is perfect, so it’s natural that you and your best friend are not going to see eye-to-eye on everything. So, when you do argue from time to time, you’ll want to be able to go running to your boyfriend for a loving shoulder to cry on.
But if when all you want to do is let off some steam about your best friend, your boyfriend keeps sticking up for her, it’s a good idea to question why.
Sure, maybe you were being a bit unreasonable, but he should be able to see that you are upset and angry. He should be there for you, not make you feel even worse about it.
10. He keeps comparing you to her
Comparing you to any other woman can be seriously hurtful but comparing you to your best friend is only going to cause a rift between the two of you. That’s just not right.
If he puts her on a pedestal and has a “why can’t you be more like her” attitude, you might want to ask him if he would prefer to go out with her instead!