Niba utarahura n’urukundo rwubuzima bwawe, birashobora kukubabaza. Urashobora kwibwira ko utagize amahirwe, ariko ugomba no kwibuka ko ejo ushobora guhura na mugenzi wawe mukundana. Nubwo kuba umuseribateri bishobora kumva nko gutegereza bitagira iherezo, ugomba no kumenya ko abasangirangendo batajya baza muburyo bwabakundana. MenyaIbintu 15 umukobwa azirikana igihe ashaka umukunzi.
1. Urukundo ruza mugihe udategereje
Nubwo iyo nteruro ishaje “inkono ishaje itigera iteka” , nukuri mugihe cyo gushaka uwo mukundana. Akenshi, iyo wumva uri hasi kandi ufite irungu ntabwo aribyo ushaka kumva, ariko amaherezo urukundo rushobora kugutangaza.
2. Umubano wawe nawe ubwawe ni ngombwa cyane
Kugirango ubone uwo muntu, ugomba kwisanga wenyine. Ugomba guhora ushiramo kwiyitaho mubikorwa byawe bisanzwe, ibyo aribyo byose bivuze kuri wowe. Kwikunda nabyo ni ngombwa – tekereza kuvuga ibyemezo byawe wenyine mu ndorerwamo cyangwa gukora urutonde rwimico ukunda kuri wowe ubwawe.
3. Buri muntu wese afite uwe
Nubwo waba wumva umeze nkumugore udasanzwe, mugenzi wawe arahari kandi azagushakira inzira mugihe bifite akamaro kanini. Birashobora kuba umuntu utazi cyangwa umuntu uri hafi utigeze witega, ariko ugomba gusa kwihanganira ibyo isanzure ryaguteganyirije.
4. Kuba ingaragu ntabwo ari bibi cyane
Nubwo bishobora kumva nkibyo rimwe na rimwe, ugomba kwemera ko byanze bikunze uzarangiza urukundo mugihe runaka mubuzima bwawe, bityo rero ugomba kwishimira ubwigenge nubwisanzure ufite nkumuntu umwe mugihe bimara.
5. Inshuti ntabwo buri gihe Zikundana
Nukuri, umukunzi wawe arashobora kuba umuntu ukunda urukundo. Ariko umukunzi wawe arashobora kandi kuba uwahoze ari inshuti yawe, umwe mubagize umuryango, cyangwa umujyanama mubuzima bwawe. Niba ufite amahirwe, uzagira inshuti nyinshi mubuzima bwawe, kandi benshi muribo bashobora kuba platonike.
6. Ntugahatire mugihe cyo guhura cya mbere
Niba utanyeganyega, ntushobora kuvuga. Kurambagiza bigomba kuba bishimishije, kandi ntugomba kumva uhatiwe gufunga umuntu nyuma yo guhura rimwe cyangwa kabiri. Nubwo wifuza cyane uwo mukundana, jyana nibyo wumva bikwiye.
7. Ibihe byashize birashobora gufasha ejo hazaza
Kumenya icyo ushaka birakenewe niba ushaka umubano mwiza numuntu umunsi umwe. Ongera usubize amaso inyuma mubucuti bwawe bwambere, mukurambagiza, cyangwa abantu wagize nabi. Ubu buryo, urashobora kumenya uburyo bwiza cyangwa butameze neza, kimwe nubwoko nibyifuzo.
8. Ntugasubire munkuru zabo mwakundanaga
Birumvikana ko hari bimwe bidasanzwe kuri iri tegeko, ariko kubice byinshi, uwahoze ari Umukunzi wawe ni impamvu yawe. Gutekereza ku mibanire yashize aho wafashwe nabi cyangwa utigeze wumva ikibatsi bizagutera gutuza umuntu muto. Kandi ukurikije amateka, ntishobora kongera gukora.
9. Koresha igihe cyawe neza
Iyo uri umuseribateri, ufite umwanya n’umwanya wo gukora ibintu ushobora kuba utagera hafi mubucuti. Urashaka kuzenguruka isi wenyine? Bite ho gufata isomo ryo guteka cyangwa gukemura intego yo guhanga.
10. Kuba umuseribateri ntibisobanura ko udakunzwe
Iyo ubonye abantu bose bahujwe birashobora gutuma wumva umeze nkumutego muri societe. Ariko twese twumvise tumeze gutya mugihe runaka, kandi ntabwo arukuri. Twese dukwiye kandi dukwiriye gutanga no kwakira urukundo rwose kwisi.
11. Tangira gukora kubintu ushaka gukora ubushakashatsi
Twese dukeneye gufata ibarura no gutunganya ubuzima bwacu mugihe runaka. Kubantu bamwe, bivuze gusubira mwishuri. Kubandi, bivuze gukosora amakosa yashize cyangwa kurangiza ikintu wasize utarangije.
12. Tekereza impamvu umubano ushize wananiranye
Ibi birashobora kugufasha kumenya niba warigeze gukurura abantu bafite ubumara cyangwa niba mubyukuri ugaragaza imyitwarire itari myiza mumibanire yawe. Inzira zose, zirashobora kugufasha kuba umuntu mwiza,kandi ufite akamaro mumibanire myiza.
13. Sisitemu yawe yo kugufasha ningirakamaro gusa nkumutima wawe
Uzi abo bantu bakomeza umwuka wawe mugihe uri hagati yabakundana? Ngiyo umuyoboro wawe wo gushyigikira, kandi ni inzira ikomeye. Bazahora iruhande rwawe, nubwo waba udakunda gute mugihe cyawe gito.
14. Kwuyuzuza ubwawe ni intambwe yambere
Ntuzigera wumva ko wujujwe nundi muntu niba utumva ibyo ukeneye. Niba hari icyo ushaka ariko wagiye usunika kure, gushaka umufasha wawe ntibizakorwa neza. Bizaba gusa birangaza, kandi ni ukurangaza amaherezo bitanyuze.
15. Wibuke uburyo utangaje
Waba inshuti ufite inyungu, mubashakanye, warashanse, cyangwa ingaragu, uratangaje,uri mwiza, kandi urihariye 100%. Imiterere yawe yurukundo ntabwo ihwanye nagaciro kawe. Umunsi umwe, Umuganwa wawe cyangwa Umuganwakazi mwiza azaza inzira yawe, ariko nubwo batabikora, urukundo rwawe wenyine ruzaba ruhagije.
