If you’ve been given the boot via text, there’s no reason to panic. Though it may seem like it at first, it’s not the end of the world — in fact, it gives you more time to figure out what’s really going on in your relationship and how you feel about your break up situation. All that being said, there are still definitely some things you should do and things you shouldn’t do when responding to a breakup text… here are The Do’s and Don’ts of Responding to a Breakup Text!!
DO: Reassure them you still care about them
It might seem like an odd thing to say in your response, but it’s important you don’t burn any bridges. It would be easy to be nasty in text, but keep in mind that if things didn’t work out with your ex for whatever reason—they were more into you than you were into them, they weren’t ready for commitment, etc.—then you could still work with each other again down the road.
DON’T: Beg for forgiveness
You can only do so much to make your partner change his/her mind. You can apologize, change your behavior, or figure out how you could have done better, but at some point, it’s time to let go and respect your partner’s decision. If you beg for forgiveness by saying that you want to try harder or whatever else, he/she will be less likely to want a relationship with you later down the line. Just remember: there are no guarantees in relationships.
DO: Understand how they’re feeling
The best thing you can do for someone who is upset is try to understand what they’re feeling. This means don’t immediately accuse them of being shallow, immature or flaky. Remember that people deal with breakups differently, and what works for one person might not work for another. If you have been in a similar situation then share your experiences; if not, be prepared to listen carefully.
DON’T: Apologize for anything
There’s nothing you need to apologize for! Breaking up is something that should be done face-to-face whenever possible, but sometimes in our day-to-day lives it just can’t happen. In those instances, don’t apologize for breaking up with them over text message
DO: Say things like, I’m sorry you feel that way or It sounds really hard right now
It’ll show her that you’re genuinely interested in how she feels, and it may lead to a useful conversation.
DON’T: Make plans with other girls right away: It will make your ex feel like you’re not taking her feelings seriously, or that you don’t care enough about your relationship.
DON’T: Answer a break up text at all unless it is work related. If you can keep things professional, then by all means.
If you are sending work related texts, keep it short and don’t give too much information. Save longer replies for face-to-face meetings. If your co-worker is initiating contact with you after hours, it may be because they need help right away. The last thing you want to do is make them wait even longer if that’s truly why they’re contacting you. If that isn’t why they’re contacting you, then consider how important your personal opinions are in such a situation.